Thursday, February 12, 2009

Unheard

Hebrews 4:15, “For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are – yet was without sin.”

Have you ever been speaking – sharing with another about how you feel (maybe rather strongly – even loudly!) when suddenly you are cut off? Interrupted mid-sentence? I have. You know how that makes me feel? It is as if the person had actually said, “What you have to say is of no consequence. It is unimportant. Your feelings are not valid. What you say and feel do not count.” Of course, that is not what they actually said; but it seems as if they could have.

The last time that happened to me, with tears trickling down my face, I told the Lord that is how I felt. You see, I am a person who struggles deeply with being completely real. You know, that gut level honesty of actually admitting how I truly feel about something.

A couple of years ago, I was digging in my garden, hitting the dirt rather strongly with my spade out of frustration. I was mad because my friend had just confronted me about being dishonest. I was asked what I was mad about, but rather than telling the truth I had given my standard reply, “I’m not mad.” There, up to my elbows in bulbs and brown mulch, the Lord told me that I was lying. Lying? Isn’t that a bit harsh? I mean all I was trying to do was not hurt their feelings and avoid an argument! Now the Lord was calling me out for this. Has this ever happened to you before?

Next thing I knew, I was dragging myself to my friend, in order to humbly admit that I am, at times, a liar. That day was a turning point for me. It was then that I promised the Lord that I would in fact become honest about the way I felt, the things I was mad about, and the truth about what I really wanted.

As I was contemplating this, I remembered that the Bible says the Lord struggled with the same things I do. Maybe He also struggled with these feelings I had –feelings of being unheard and of being interrupted. I knew He would understand. He was tempted and struggled in many ways, yet He remained sinless. I’m thankful that Jesus sympathizes with me and understands what I’m going through. He’s a model for us to follow when we face temptations and struggles. When you feel unheard, look to Jesus who always hears you, and follow His example.

My Prayer for Today:

Dear Lord, Thank you that You understand me even when I don’t understand myself. Please help me to be honest when it comes to communicating with others. I need You in order to do this, Lord. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Related Resources:

Teen Devotional Bible

The One Year Devos for Teens, by Susie Shellenberger

Think About It:

Do I struggle with being honest with others when it comes to my true feelings? If so, why do I think that is?

Why does the Lord want me to be honest with others – even when it seems scary?

What do I think being honest will cost me?

Live It:

Ask a friend to be on the look out for when you are covering up or not telling how you truly feel about something. Ask her to call you out on it.

Practice being honest with the Lord first; it is a safe place.

Pray and ask the Holy Spirit to reveal to you when you are not being truthful. When He does, confess it right away!

Power Verses:

Psalm 15:1-2, “LORD, who may dwell in your sanctuary? Who may live on your holy hill? He whose walk is blameless and who does what is righteous, who speaks the truth from his heart.” (NIV)

Psalm 25:5, “Guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long.” (NIV)

Proverbs 23:23, “Buy the truth and do not sell it; get wisdom, discipline and understanding.” (NIV)

6 comments:

Glynnis Whitwer said...

Lynn, thanks for your devotion today and this great post. They both are filled with important truths we needed to be reminded about often. With four teenagers at home and a challenging pre-teen, I get very weary of setting boundaries yet again. Thanks for your remind of their importance.

www.luannprater.com said...

Lynn,
Great devo today! Keep it up girl.
Luann

Sheena said...

Needed this.For me, sometimes people looks down on my age as I am much younger but still really love the Lord so so so much.At times i really feel so so sad and ask God... how can people be so inconsiderate.But as u reminded, Jesus faced it too...so he knows how i feel.... and he will grant me the grace to go through it.Will keep on trusting Him

Sweet Blessings
Sheena Jeremiah

Jeanies Heavenly Treasures said...

Lynn,

Thank you so much for writing this post about boundaries! So many people don't get it! God Bless with your ministry and your parenting!
I will add you to my blog!

Van said...

Oh yes...... a mother's work is never done. Gotta always be marking those boundries and we will never regret it. Don't you love those "thank you for setting the boundries" mooments. It's tireing and we want to give up. Mine are grown and out of the house and I am so happy I kept on keeping at it. Great illustration, Lynn.

seesawfaith said...

This was wonderful. I have a friend that always complains that others don't listen to her. You helped me to open my eyes more to what she is feeling.

I also tell lies all the time but never think of them that way at the time. It is something we definately need to guard against. It goes back to the frog analogy. By lying and saying we are "fine" to avoid an argument, we make the next lie easier, and then the next, until we are so deep that we can't even tell the truth in our own heart.

Thanks so much for the encouraging words on my blog today. I have been having a pretty rough week getting back to "normal" after a really off day teaching (I lead a small group on sundays in our youth group, teaching the old testament). I let it linger too long in my heart. Your words of encouragement were very timely for me!